Daily Saying for July 31st, 2011

When that food you hate comes around, try it again.  Never let hate beat you in anything.  When that food you love comes around again, share it with someone.  Never let your consumption consume you in any way.  When the food comes around again, taste it.  Never forget to taste it.  Never.
     ~至道

Daily Saying for July 30th, 2011

You will never know who will have a chance to save a life which is precious to you.  Thank everyone in advance for their kindness.
     ~至道

Step by step instructions for how to let it go and grow

I was recently asked:

How does one forgive themselves? Or someone close to them, for a most painful disappointment?

This was my response:

Step by step instructions for how to let it go and grow:

1. Take a deep breath every time you think of something you need to let go or forgive.
2. Put it in perspective.  Ask yourself, "How important will this be in a year?  How important will it be in ten years?  How important is it to people on the other side of the world?  How important is it to the universe?"  Remember then, that it is not.  The importance is only immediate and only to you.  Ultimately none of reality hinges on this one thing.  Let that be a weight off of your shoulders.
3. Remember that you are the one in control of your perspective.  You can choose to open or close your eyes, you can choose to hear words with a certain understanding of meaning, there is nothing about you which you can not change.
4. See the situation from more than your own perspective. Try thinking of how it would seem to your friends, your enemies, your teachers, your children and people you've never met.  Your view is not all of reality.  How comforting!
5. Tell yourself you've already let it go.  If you keep telling yourself you're not done with it, you'll hold on to it as firmly as you intend to throw it away.
6. Repeat steps 1-5 three times.  Reassuring yourself of these things three times will confirm the truth for your world.
7. Eat or drink something that is healthy and do so slowly with appreciation.  Take that time to slow down and re-focus your mind.  Don't miss that kind of little thing.  It's a miracle and miracles are all around you.  
8. Say a prayer of thanks.  Just be thankful for all of the tiniest things in your life and just tell them to the universe/god/a friend/your dog.  Talk about things from the present.  No need for even thinking about the immediate past, but if there are some good things, go ahead and throw them in too.
9. One more deep breath. 
10. Continue your life as a freer being.  Remember this anytime there's something difficult going on.  It might not be your difficult thing, but someone else might go through something too.  Help them through it with these steps and you'll both feel a lot better.

Hope that helped.
    ~至道

Daily Saying for July 29th, 2011

The length of a hundred steps depends entirely on the legs of the one walking them.  However, everyone gets farther when they leap.
     ~至道

Daily Saying for July 28th, 2011

There is more nothing inside of us than thing...how can we still think we are real?
     ~至道

Daily Saying for July 27th, 2011

Someone whose only reason for being in education is business has no business in education.
     ~至道

Daily Saying for July 26th, 2011

The most beautiful thing about understanding and life is that they grow together, are shared with others and one day they disappear into the night but their touch remains on the universe until the morning.
      ~至道